Have you ever noticed that when your confidence is low, you downplay your strengths and overemphasize your flaws?  Or, that when you feel small, you act small, or not at all?  When this happens your self-esteem and confidence plummets and the cycle sends you spiraling downward until you feel as if you are a loser - a lost cause.

That simply is not true.  You have gifts, attributes, and skills that are uniquely yours.  And if you look back over your life, you will find that you have experienced many successes, and positively impacted others' lives.

If you ever feel yourself minimizing your positive traits and maximizing your flaws, then take these steps for reversing the cycle and getting back into the winner circle.
  • Step 1 - Celebrate your wins.  By recognizing your successes, whether it's making a difficult phone call or cooking a juicy turkey, giving yourself a pat on the back for successes - large and small - will boost your confidence.  When you win, make the time to stop, celebrate and savor.
  • Step 2 - Learn from your mistakes.  We all stumble and make mistakes, especially when learning or trying something new.  Mistakes indicate that we have movement, we are making an effort and moving forward, even if there is a detour.  The more we try something new, the more mistakes (learning opportunities) we have.  People who do not make mistakes are standing still in safe territory, or their comfortable routines.  And, when you think about it, isn't that a mistake?
  • Step 3 - Keep trying.  People who achieve their goals don't stop until they've reached the finish line.  When we want to win big, we must be willing to miss, learn and try again.  With persistent and determined action, we're guaranteed an eventual win.  So, be prepared to pick yourself up, brush yourself off, and get going again.
So the next time you feel your confidence slipping, remember to celebrate, learn, and keep at it.  You will be glad you did.